How to Use Goal Making as a Way of Beating Anxiety/Depression

What is a major component of anxiety? Worrying and overanalyzing stuff (at least it is in my case), while it’s harder to target the subconscious mind, you CAN fight it consciously. You may have a lot going on, social life/work/school/gym/family time/travel/shenanigans and adventures/parties etc. These can certainly cause massive anxiety if you don’t know how you’re going to get everything done! My old mentor in the Real Estate game taught me something very important, the importance of his calendar and schedule. I always swore up and down I wouldn’t plan out every second of my life because I liked being free; however, I noticed that when I didn’t plan, not only did things not get done but I got more anxious and depressed as a result!

Phones synced with Google Calendars are fairly standard and useful (setting reminders and such), however never underestimate the importance of good old fashioned hard copies. A daytimer or journal can really help you stay on top of things and also achieve your goals! For instance: I keep a journal of everything I’m supposed to do in a given week, with weekly short term goals written at the top, then under that I put things I can tally such as: gym, contacts for networking, articles I’ve written, acting/modeling gigs, meditation/yoga etc. Below that I put a giant line and then write down everything I need to get done that week, from people who owe me money, to ordering my textbooks, to events I’ve committed to attending and networking conferences. Sometimes when I’m anxious all it takes is me looking at my journal and crossing a few things off to know not only am I being productive, I’m achieving whatever goals I’ve set for myself that week! You can even give yourself a treat at the end of the week if you’ve achieved everything you needed to do; positive reinforcement to help the subconscious mind get into routine, rather than you criticizing yourself and negative reinforcement.

Keeping yourself alone and indoors is a major contributor to depression and anxiety, the depression because you’re isolating yourself and the anxiety (especially if you’re an introvert like me), because you’re not going out and interacting with people therefore resetting your experience and having to get used to that again every time you go out! You don’t even need to talk to people, in all honesty what used to help me when I was younger was taking a walk down to the local park and chillaxing on the docks, now that I’m older I take a drive or go hang at the library for a bit and read.

Once you feel achieve your current short term goals move into longer term one’s, I plan out a 6 month timeline, a 1 year timeline and a 3 year timeline; everytime I cross something off those lists I get this warm fuzzy feeling inside that tells me I’m going somewhere. We humans can be very linear path minded and if you have no idea what direction you’re going; it can make you feel very anxious and depressed indeed!

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